Japanese sub/bottom seeks long-term Dom/Owner in NYC

m4m · New York, NY · more m4m in New York · 2026-09-30 4:31am (2 days ago)

I currently live in Nagoya, Japan, and New York City is my preferred relocation destination. I'm a gay Japanese sub/bottom, 165 cm / 80 kg (5'5" / 176 lbs). I'm seeking a male Dom/Owner for a long-term relationship in real life. I'd like to get to know each other, meet in person, and build a lasting M/s or ownership dynamic. If we're a strong match, I'm open to relocating internationally and eventually living together. My central kink is long-term transformation through ownership and conditioning. I want to become an exaggerated, old-fashioned Japanese "oyaji": bald, fat, hairy, scruffy, badly dressed, crude, shameless and ridiculous. I want the changes to become part of everyday appearance, behaviour and identity, rather than a costume for an occasional scene. I'm especially drawn to severe male-pattern baldness and an eventual NW7 horseshoe, weight gain and feederism, grooming and clothing control, body hair and odor, slobbification, humiliation, conditioning and personality molding. I like the contrast between a young face and an unmistakably old-man appearance. Outdated clothes, silly habits, bad jokes, embarrassing party tricks and being laughed at are part of the fantasy. The gradual progression and lasting identity change matter to me. I'd love an Owner who enjoys designing his own version of my transformation: my hair, body, clothes, grooming, habits and behaviour. I'm looking for genuine compatibility and a long-term connection, with the possibility of sharing everyday life. If this interests you, tell me how you imagine your "oyaji" would look and behave, and what you would change first.

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